“We can't be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don't have something better.” ― C. JoyBell C.
Last night I had the opportunity to hear a wonderful talk by life coach, Debby Lacy about living with less fear and more joy. At the beginning of the talk she asked the audience, "there have been some opportunities lately to feel more fear, don't you think?" There were nods and affirmative responses from the group. A similar scenario happened when I was in California before Thanksgiving for a yoga business women's retreat. We are still sitting with what is happening in our country and unsure where the next year will take us. We cannot ignore it and yet there is a deep desire to move forward from a different place than fear or loss.
Heading into the last month of 2016, I can look back on my year and see that it has been full of many changes. Others, seeing or experiencing a year spent leaving all that has been familiar for decades, might feel it as loss or grief, but I see it as an opportunity to be more committed and authentic with my life and choices. It is like the universe is saying to us "you said you believed this, that it was something that you truly value as a way to live your life. Now is the time to show up like you mean it in every moment."
~ John F. Kennedy
I suggest we reframe the grief process as a time of letting go. What if we see it as a time to honor, feel gratitude and move on to the next experience? Instead of clinging to our preferences, can we see an opportunity to look at the situation we are in and find a way to move forward with peace, love and grace? Letting go is an opportunity for us to learn the art of transition.
In my years of teaching kids, transitions were always a time to bring your best skills forward to ease others into the change instead of letting panic take over and chaos reign.
Here are some tips from those years;
- Be present within yourself so you can set the tone for what's to come.
- Be aware of what is going on around you. Don't rush in with your own ideas without considering others.
- Keep making small steps forward in the direction you want to go.
- Find time and space for playfulness and joy.
- See these as teachable moments. What are you here to learn? What are you here to model?
- Look for helpers to support the change you seek.
"Change is inevitable; suffering is optional." (author unknown) As 2016, winds down, we can see it as a time to let go of what no longer serves us, what is ready to leave our lives for whatever reason and make space for what has been waiting to come to open our hearts even more.
― Jeanette LeBlanc