So, love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don’t.
And believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it.
If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said that it would be easy,
they just promised it would be worth it.” — Harvey MacKay
Pause to take it all in and let the waters still.
Yoga teaches that the secret to the breath is in the pauses. When we observe the natural pause between the inhalation and the exhalation, we give ourselves a moment to take it all in. To integrate what we are receiving. To let ourselves feel present, abundant and fulfilled. When we pause and feel the effect of the exhalation, we honor what has been and let it go. We send our gratitude into the world and create space for healing and newness to come with the next full breath.
Pause for refection and become what you are learning.
As I continue the process of decluttering my home, I've started going through the papers and sentimental objects. Some are easy to let go of and send on to their next home. Some give me pause. I remember meeting my beagle, Milo for the first time as I read through the letter from his past family and look at the sweet photos. I uncover the drawings I did with my dad when I was 6 years old and the quotes I meticulously copied from books and magazines into a notebook full of my neatest cursive writing. And through all this I realize that Marie Kondo was right in the book, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. We do become the things we most value. We don't need the support of tangible things to remember. They live on in our soul, in our breath, in who we become.
Pause to gain perspective and see a different viewpoint.
MELT has taught me to lie down and rest during my practice. To feel what each move is doing within my physical body. Some things serve me temporarily in one area but cause strain and discomfort in another in ways I never noticed before. When I observe my thoughts in meditation or self-reflection, I see the moments of self-sabotage for what they are and can choose a new way.
Pause and remember your intention and who you most want to be.
We all have reminders throughout our day that invite us to pause. To reset our day back to what is most important to us. To correct our course back to where we want to go, how we want to live. When we get in an airplane and fly across the country, the pilot is continually making course corrections to stay on track. If the pilot didn't, we would be off target by about one mile for every sixty miles we flew during the trip. Pausing creates awareness and gives us time to redirect out efforts.
Pause to appreciate the gifts of this present moment.
How do you create meaningful pauses in your day? Here are a few of my favorites:
- By my bed I have a framed collage of notes and images that remind me of the gratitude I share with my students for the practice of yoga and how it has brought us together and enhanced our lives.
- On my computer I have a virtual sticky note with a favorite quote and a reminder of the why behind what I choose to do in my life.
- At meals my partner and I pause to appreciate the nourishing food and feel gratitude for this time to be together.
- I have books everywhere. Beside my bed. On the coffee table. Tucked inside my bag. And I read a little bit when I am want to feel more inspired.
- Play instrumental music you love and give yourself a chance to be enjoy beauty without words.
- Listen to the birds sing.
- Go out for a walk and breathe the fresh air. Or smell the roses. Or feel the rain on your cheeks.
- Turn off your cell phone, your computer and your tv for an evening, a day or a weekend.
- A dear friend once told me to write down all my thoughts first thing in the morning for about 5 minutes and then reread the list at the end of the day, noticing if those thoughts were still important to me. Keep it up for a few days and notice what changes in the start and end of your day.
- Have an evening gratitude practice to review your day.